Conscious Connection

In person with Deborah Wilson

Relationships can serve as a rich classroom and catalyst for awakening. Learn how to cultivate deep meaningful connection to others in your life, while sustaining strong connection to self. Discover and address subconscious patterns playing out within you and within your relationships as barriers to love. Acquire practical tools and skills to assist you in navigating your relationships, whether romantic, platonic, familial, or work-related.

Join us and explore the following topics and more:
• THE INSIDE OUT APPROACH: From Behavior Focused to Mind Focused
• LOVE WITH AN UNDEFENDED HEART: From Blame Paradigm to Undefended Love Paradigm
• LIVE AS A CREATOR/DIRECTOR: From Playing Victim to Being 100% Responsible

THE INSIDE OUT APPROACH: From Behavior Focused to Mind Focused
We begin with the understanding our inner reality is primary and the outer is but a reflection. So, when we try to control or change the outer world, it’s as if we’re trying to alter our reflection in the mirror while expecting our physical face to transform. The fact is we have little to no power over the physical realm—other people, events, the weather, etc. Therefore, whatever it is we are trying to control “out there,” we will find it is easier and more fruitful to instead change our mind about it.

Where do we have power? In our internal reality. Here, we can decide how to perceive people and situations, the meaning we give them, and our response to them. Here, we can choose our thoughts, emotions, and reactions. When we first and foremost stay focused on our circle—our inner world and sphere of personal sovereignty—we take back our freedom and power. When we look inside our inner world to define who we are and our worth, tap into our wisdom and discover our own answers, and recognize the purpose and flow for our life, we come into harmony with all of life. We come into harmony with all our relationships. We feel connected, empowered, and peaceful.

LOVE WITH AN UNDEFENDED HEART: From Blame Paradigm to Undefended Love Paradigm
“Exposing ourselves to what we expect will be emotional annihilation is not easy. It means staying with an issue in the presence of our partners when continuing is the hardest thing to do. It means stretching to stay open even if shutting down is our main line of defense. It means speaking about what we are feeling when we are paralyzed with fear. And it means remaining fully present without lashing out when we experience our partners as critical, blaming, or attacking. It even means staying with feeling bad, inadequate, less than or lacking without doing something to distract ourselves so we can feel better.”
– Undefended Love by Jett Psaris and Marlena S. Lyons

When we embrace our interconnectedness, we naturally move out of the us-versus-them mindset and away from relating to the world as a battlefield. When we realize who we truly are cannot be harmed (since we are not our bodies), we can begin to deconstruct the elaborate defense patterns and the walls around our heart. When we recognize and honor love as the most powerful force in the universe, we undergo a paradigm shift, moving from blame to undefended love. With this shift, we release the attack-defend mode of being along with the notion there is a self that needs protecting.

LIVE AS A CREATOR/DIRECTOR: From Playing Victim to Being 100% Responsible
Most of us desire to be more empowered in our life. This naturally occurs as we ground within ourselves and access our innate creative power and wisdom. When we allow our innate wisdom to guide us, we can see our way past old habits of defensiveness and control. We can see our way past acting as victim to the world, and thereby give up related feelings of fear, helplessness, and oppression. Getting in touch with the creative force within inevitably leads to encounters with the larger creative force of the universe. When we allow this to open us up, when we fully trust instead of clinging to a need for safety and being attached to outcomes, all at once we discover we have more power and influence over our experiences and relationships than we realize.

With power comes responsibility. When we take up that responsibility, which we’re not entirely sure we want, the subconscious blame games no longer have any appeal to us. We step up, take the risk, and decide we are able to respond to whatever life throws at us. With this one decision, we stop engaging in power struggles, lose interest in “prove you love me” charades, and, no longer needing other characters in our drama, we withdraw our projections. Next thing we know, we’ve been appointed as the director of our life and put in charge of our reality and our relationships. We now have at our fingertips the creative power and all the resources we need to mold our destiny.

WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING

“I have been working with Deborah for nearly a decade now, and our sessions have been incredibly transformative for me! When I leave her office, I consistently feel more empowered and expansive within my own being and also more connected to my partner. Deborah guides us in becoming aware of what is blocking the flow of connection while simultaneously offering practical tools and teachings that we can apply. I feel struck by the power of her work and would highly recommend her sessions and workshops!” 

Danielle Jordan, Spiritual Counselor and Coach

“My husband and I work with Deborah regularly and highly recommend her. Her unique method for working with couples lets you skip over the “he said/she said” dynamic and instead move gently to the vulnerable heart of the matter. She brings a wonderful combination of wisdom, experience, intuition, and light-hearted energy to every session, and I always feel deeply supported and compassionately guided. 

A. R.

“My partner and I worked with Deborah for six years, seeking guidance to improve our relationship. The experience was truly transformative, as Deborah’s insightful approach helped me take ownership of my experiences, release blame, and embrace vulnerability. While personal growth may not always be easy, Deborah created a supportive and engaging environment that made the process enjoyable and rewarding.

Deborah’s direct, honest, and compassionate style fostered a safe space for sharing my deepest thoughts and feelings. Her uncompromising commitment to challenging me and holding me accountable was invaluable in my journey toward self-improvement and growth in my relationship. Her relationship training program provided me with practical tools and skills that significantly enhanced the ways I relate to everyone in my life. I wholeheartedly recommend Deborah to anyone seeking a dedicated, skilled, and empathetic professional to guide them through their journey of self-discovery and growth in relationships.”

Past participant and client

ABOUT DEBORAH
Deborah Wilson is a certified holistic health practitioner, relationship coach, speaker, author, and the founder of the Wholeness Method. In her relationship work, she draws on her personal experience as much as she does her training. Deborah has been married twice (to her current partner for nearly 30 years), has raised five children who are now grown, and had lived in a spiritual community and ecovillage for 25 years. There she lived, played, and worked with more than 30 people, and there she studied and regularly practiced the valuable skills of conflict resolution, non-violent communication, and mediation. Through this, she learned to experience relationships as a vehicle for personal growth. In her private practice, Deborah helps empower her clients to heal themselves and their relationships, restore their wholeness, and transform their reality. In her workshops and classes, she teaches with an engaging, compassionate, down-to-earth, approachable manner and shares her knowledge and 36 years’ experience in the fields of holistic health and consciousness.

April 27 – 28, 2024
Saturday and Sunday, 9:30 – 5:30
$270 regular fee
$75 fee for 2nd person; bring a friend, family member, or partner
(if finances are an issue, please contact me)

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