Healing Relationships

My husband and I have a great relationship, get along well, and rarely quarrel. Over the last 30 years together, we have had very few difficult times. One of those times, my husband and I didn’t speak to each other for two weeks. A series of situations in 2006 had me questioning whether we shared the values I thought we did. When we tried to discuss the matter, neither of us felt heard or understood.  It felt to me we were at an impasse with no way through. Our marriage was at risk.

The values related to how we lived and in particular to how we raised our five children. We lived at a spiritual community, allowed the children to choose schooling at home or at public school, and had no television. We limited movies to one night a week, and we screened all the children’s books and movies to make sure they were age-appropriate and not violent in nature.

The challenge arose for me when I felt my voice was being ignored about which movies should not be allowed. One night while I was at work, despite the strong objection I had expressed, my husband let the kids watch Pirates of the Caribbean. That was the last straw. He and I had previewed the movie and I clearly stated I did not feel it appropriate for the children, especially for my seven-year-old son. This prompted our dialogue and my questioning whether we shared values.

During those long two weeks, I found myself wishing we had a couple’s counselor or therapist. Just as I started to feel hopeless, it occurred to me to work with my personal energy healer and teacher. We saw her for a couple’s session, and it was hugely successful. During the session, we discovered I was subconsciously identified with my mom, and therefore thought I should be in charge of raising the children like she had been. My husband was subconsciously identified as his dad, and therefore felt there was no room for his voice and that he was being pushed out of the house completely as his father had been.

We were able to shift from seeing the situation from this subconscious perspective to a higher perspective. Afterwards, my husband and I were back in harmonious relationship. I was blown away by how effective just one session was. I decided I wanted to help couples in the same way she helped us.Some companies claim that they are also helpful to recover the condition and offer the person ability to that page viagra properien have fun during the intercourse.

That was in 2005, and I’ve been working successfully with couples in my healing practice ever since. Over the years, I have seen couples and people in a variety of relationships—roommates, business partners, parent and child, whole families, etc. It makes sense to me that the system of energy healing I use is just as powerful for couples as individuals. All is energy and the system is designed to balance energy and bring it into a state of harmony and wholeness. It also makes sense that my practice specializes in relationships, as my own journey to wholeness has been informed by my relationships.

Within a wholeness-oriented framework, the energy healing system uses a three-step process similar to coaching: 1) figure out what you want, 2) discover what is in the way, and 3) identify steps and anything else needed to get there. The gift of this system is its use of energy testing (also known as applied kinesiology or muscle testing) both to steer the session and to access the subconscious, where blockages are often found.

In a relationship session, you get to witness each other’s healing journey and come to a better understanding of the other’s patterns and, therefore, of the relationship. In that defining session in 2005, this was key for me. The difference of opinion that threatened to ruin our marriage was transformed by uncovering my own subconscious pattern, witnessing my husband discovering his, and understanding how the two patterns connected to create the dispute.

Over the years of working with people on their relationships, I’ve observed the same dynamics playing over and over which led me to develop an approach to address those patterns. When used within the energy healing system, this approach undoes the cycles of projection, disconnection, and blame, and allows for a shift into a new paradigm of wholeness from which to live and relate. It has been one of my greatest satisfactions to help people heal themselves and their relationships!